successful love and marriage

Porn and Privacy in Relationships. Is it OK? We are quick to pathologize porn usage both in single status and more so in  relationships. Hyper-sexuality and Sexual Addiction are quickly becoming  concerning labels. While not completely innocuous (which we will look at later),  might porn provide the very platform many people need to preserve the last little  part of themselves that has become shared and conventional? 35% of all website traffic is to porn sites. This is more than Amazon, Netflix and  Twitter combined. 1 in 5 mobile searches are for porn. Well then, if this is the reality  of our culture today, can we attempt to understand it better? Rather than dismiss  it as perverse, can we look at some possible reasons for these astounding statistics? Secrecy As a couples therapist, I see the manifestations of finding out one’s partner is “into  porn”. While the varying feelings around this issue are different for each ...

Best Sex Advice for Couples It’s kind of funny when people ask for sex advice because often there isn’t anything wrong with the actual sex. While there are things couples can and should do to improve the physicality of sex, improving the overall sex life usually has much more to do with things outside of the bedroom. What is actually bothering you? The first thing I always tell people is to monitor their thought life. If you don’t know what I mean about a thought life, it is simply anything that you allow into your brain and linger there for a bit. There are thoughts that stick around which make us unhappy with our circumstances. Sometimes those thoughts can deter us from being physically intimate with our spouse. For example, are you allowing yourself to think poorly of your spouse or are you intentionally thinking highly of your spouse? If it is the former, those thoughts need to change. Listen, I am not telling you to disillusion yourself about your spouse. I am simp...

How Often Do Married Couples Have Sex? It’s an interesting question with answers that may surprise you. On an average, how often do married couples have sex? The short answer is, it depends on who you ask. So, how often do married couples have intercourse? There are plenty of different polls out there that lay out different statistics. Here are some of their findings: Newsweek  magazine found in its poll that married couples have sex about 68.5 times a year, or a little more than on an average. The magazine also found out that as compared to unmarried people,  married couples have 6.9 times more sex per year. According to a University of Chicago Study called “The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States,” about 32 percent of married couples have sex two or three times a week, 80 percent of married couples have sex a few times a month or more, and 47 percent say they have sex a few times a month. In another study, this time by Da...

4 Most Important Keys To Get The Fire Back in Your Sex  Life The four most important keys, in order to get back fire in your sex life! Have you ever reached the point of being bored with the sex life you have with your partner? Are your needs not getting met? Have your hormones changed? Is the lack of sex drive pushing your partner and yourself further and further apart? The above questions are normal part of almost all relationships. Millions of Americans today in relationships are struggling with their own sexuality, their own desires, and have a really hard time communicating this to their partners.   But that shouldn’t be the case! I’m constantly amazed, and even saddened at times, when I work with individuals or couples who are struggling in the relationship because their intimate and or sexual needs are not getting met. Overcoming dissatisfaction in regular sexual regime is easier than you  think. There are four important keys to mainta...